Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Stay Calm, Stay Calm...

is what I have to keep telling myself these days. Addie is driving me NUTS! When people talk about the terrible 2's, this must be what they mean. She was sooo sweet, nice and helpful up until about a week ago. I seriously want to strangle her (not really. I wouldn't hurt one of my babies!) sometimes but I keep reminding myself that screaming at her will accomplish absolutly nothing. This is what I hear from her all day:



*No.
*I can't.
*I don't have to!
*I don't want to.
*I'm NOT sleepy.
*NO!!
*It's NOT naptime.
*Leave my toys alone.
*Don't touch those, go around!
*I want dad.
*NO.



There have been lots of tantrums, rolling and screaming on the floor and Daniel and I don't know what to do. I've read books about how to handle this and how you are supposed to speak calm and get her to calm down then explain why she can't have something and give her 2 options which she is supposed to pick from. Sounds good on paper but when the moment comes and I feel like screaming, speaking in a calm voice is VERY hard to do. I am working on it and hopefully we will handle this the right way so that it is just a phase and doesn't become a permanent behavior.



1 comment:

Travis and Ashlee said...

I totally hear ya there. I remember when Makaila went threw that phase. I thought I was going to pull my hair out. Now my second one is doing it and I feel the same way. It's lik I don't rememebr how I got threw it last time, like I have no clue what to do. I feel like she is always yelling at me and telling me no, now i jsut also have a very defiant 3 year old and very needy baby that wants nothing but mom all day and if she can't see me screams her head off!! Wish I had some advise for you. But if you figure out something that works please tell me!!